Self-Sabotage: Why Do You Gaslight Yourself?
How projection and fear plays a major role in your own self-sabotage
“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” - Seneca
Why is this?
Because most if not all of our self-limiting beliefs are based on three forms of fear:
Fear of external judgement (social anxiety)
Fear of being exposed as a fraud (imposter-syndrome)
Fear of rejection (avoidant or people-pleasing behaviour)
All of these fears (which we use as a reason to limit ourselves) are all rooted in the unknown projective possibilities of what may (or may not) lurk behind the external gaze of others and how we allow it to control our actions, for example:
“I won’t get the job, I have great work experience for it but there is always someone else better suited for it.”
“They seem great and want to meet me again, but I will probably come across as really awkward to them.”
“I shouldn’t go deeper into my life’s story with this person, they seem interested but they will probably push me away.”
“I should probably just agree with everything they say and want to do because I really don’t want to be rejected for being different, even if I disagree.”
When we do this to ourselves we are gaslighting our own reality with the use of faulty reasoning to appease the power that fear has over us by selling ourselves a lie based upon:
Over-generalisation
Emotional reasoning
Mind-reading
Minimisation
Oversimplification
This leads us to not being able to truly see ourselves for who we actually are or do what we truly desire to do, blinded by our interpretation of projection from the external gaze of which we cannot truly see.
Once we start to realise that we are doing this to ourselves we can then truly start to begin the process of change and transformation to see things more clearly then ever before.
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